I have a thing for being restrained.Restrained here is a very varied word, not just the rope or cuffs that immediately come to mind.
Anything restrictive just does it for me. From corsets to tight pants to heels. I like knowing my body is being shaped to please men (or women), without much 'care' given to my comfort. Add in that in addition to pleasing others, these things actually do restrain movement, and its a 'make girl squish' scenario. I think Master was surprised when we got my first steel boned corset and laced me into it. He thought I was crazy turned on by the much less restrictive plastic boned things (more lingerie than actual shaping garment, you know what I'm talking about, the 'corsets' sold in most novelty stores). And then he tightened the real deal down on me and reached around to check... Heh. Straight up soaked down the thighs level of desperate girl.
Before I start wandering off down corset love lane, let's get back to more general 'bondage'. I prefer rope. I love the feel of it digging into or scraping across my skin if I squirm. It's far more of a tactile experience for me than metal. I like metal, cuffs, etc, but it's just not as awesome. I know plenty of people who prefer it, it's more secure AND easier to get out of. Less risk of over tightening and all that. But to me... It's just not quite there on my list of swoon worthy.
However....(don't you love these little snags?)
Master can't tie a knot to save his life. I can tie myself better than he can. I don't why. I've shown him how before. He's looked it up before (step-by-step instructions with pictures, even). He just doesn't get it. If he has me in front of him, and the computer opened up to a how to, he can recreate exactly what is shown if given enough time. He just can't do it on his own. Which kind of ruins rope bondage. I enjoy force, but if I am having to pause, hold perfectly still and not squirm so he can take 20 minutes to figure it out, it just kind of kills it. If he just slaps it together without taking time remembering the step by step, I'm afraid to test or pull against it. I know I'll be able to wriggle out, and with shameful ease (have done it a few times).
Now, I get it. I'm the submissive, no doubt, in our bed (some doubts about the overall daily lives). Hands down. I have no room/reason/right to expect to be tied, or bound in general, just because I enjoy it. But I do enjoy it. I do want it. Master has no problems with it, except that he really cannot tie a knot, and we cannot (locally) find cuffs without a quick release. Quick release=no go, by the way. They feel wrong, plus I don't want to be able to get out on a whim. There's no point if I can, and he agrees with that sentiment.
So, if anyone has any ideas on helping the male learn to tie a knot quickly/efficiently (more realistically, if anyone bothers with reading my rambling), please share. He is interested, but I am frustrated and out of ideas, short of maybe buying him a Boy Scout handbook :P
A little late to the party, but I think it's still valid.
ReplyDeleteThe best way for him to learn is to practice, and it's not something that should be practiced during a potential scene. Find a good book about rope bondage - I'd recommend Douglas Kent's work, myself - and read it. REALLY read it. Not just skim - read it like a novel. Take note of the knots, practice them on a chair so that they look just right. (Use short ropes for practice knots.)
When it's time to move up to tying a series of knots on something, it's best if he doesn't start practice on you first. Get a couple of old pillows and duct tape them together. Practice. Practice. Practice. When he can do a series of knots without the help of the book, move up to practice on a person. If you can't be tied up without losing yourself completely, see if you can find an old department store mannequin somewhere, or a friend who doesn't mind taking a couple hours out of their day to get tied down. (If you use the mannequin, make sure you mark where the pulse points are. Those are IMPORTANT.)
Like any other skill, bondage takes time to master (pardon the pun). It can't be learned in just a few hours, and certainly not memorized after two or three attempts.
I'm terminally late on commenting, so no worries there.
DeleteI'll look up Douglas Kent stuff and see if he's interested in trying how you're suggesting, thanks!