Ah, friends (and collar love)

We had one of Masters friends/coworkers over last week, as well as his wife. They played cards for a while but I was in the middle of making dinner so didn't get to hang out much or play, just kinda listen and talk a little bit. (relevant later, I promise)

I normally wear a 'turian' collar. Normally as in it's been off for one 24 hour period in months, and that time period ended yesterday. I get tension headaches and the one the night before had been bad enough I'd asked/begged that I get it off for a while so I could get at my neck to rub it without having to break anywhere, and a little relief from the weight. Just couldn't handle it, even if it is a rather thin, it IS still a steel ring.

Ok, that was a bit of a tangent. Master came home from work yesterday, got my collar screwed back down as it should be and no more than five minutes later pokes the collar and says 'I got to have a fun conversation about that at work today.'

Evidently it went something along these lines (N=coworker/friend)

N: Something about he and his wife 'like my necklace, where'd you get it?'
Master: ~confusions~ then "That's not a necklace"
N:"What is it then?"
Master: "A collar."
N: "Same thing."
Master: "Not that collar"

So he then got to go on to sort of explain a little bit ('Yes, we're married like ya'll are, but our lifestyle is different, I effectively own her.' etc) and all I can get about this conversation past that through the laughing is that N asked if Master 'like bought her.'

Which promptly takes me back to another day, another time. Master let one of his (very vanilla) friends play with us. A couple times, actually. A few days after the first instance, he ran me down to the gas station for something, I think we we playing games somewhere and Master wanted a soda, so sent me with his friend to get one. Said friend (J) took this opportunity to ask me if I 'was all right.'

I am confused, and answer that I'm fine, why? He goes on to be somewhat horrified, like a guy staring at a car wreck, about how rough Master was with me, and etc, etc. Now, we'd toned down, a lot, on what we do. I think there was maybe some spanking, and an instance of Master putting his hands around my throat. I willingly pushed against his hands to choke myself, so Master tightened his grip, but evidently this is what J was referring to.

He didn't get it. He was sure it had to be because Master wanted it, not that Master was following my lead on that occasion. He couldn't understand, or really accept, that I enjoy far 'worse'. By the end of the conversation I gave and told him the internet was his friend.

Of course being weirded out didn't stop him from coming back next time he was invited, but I still almost feel like I raped the poor guy. I didn't force him to participate, I didn't make sure he had to stay, he was offered to opportunity to leave at many points. He was the one who said he wanted to watch, Master just took it a step further and invited him to join. But he evidently wasn't given enough warning on what he could expect.

Add in that he was the most passive partner I've ever had, and it just feels strange, thinking back on it.

All of that boils down to this little note for Master:

Master, I know you get bored and read this so here ya go: Maybe next time just let it be a necklace, because however much you think otherwise, I see him or his wife cornering someone for a better explanation next time they're over.

Oh, and I guess that I can highly recommend www.ringofsteel.net /Vad Farkas for collars. The one I wear is 'stealth' and when closed, unless you look VERY closely, it looks like it was crafted around my neck. The response time for questions is AMAZING and he makes to order. When we were looking for our collar, Master expressed some doubt about getting the thinner Stealth collar (1/4 inch instead of 3/8), so I asked if we got it and Master was still unconvinced it 'felt' right, if I could exchange for the standard version, additional shipping of course at my expense. I was told it wouldn't be a problem, just expect shipping delays since he was having a bit of a rush due to the season.

 With all of that, I expected my near Christmas order to take 3-4 weeks, minimum, but had it in my hands in somewhere around 10 days.

And really, I cannot say enough about how smooth the collar looks and feels. It seriously sometimes takes me a minute to find the hinge with the allen screw closure. I can't speak on the lead rings as mine have never been on (kind of besides the point to have a functional collar that can pass for jewelry if it can't pass for jewelry or Master is having to open it frequently so that it can), and my only minor caution: If you do unscrew it, make sure that the screw is flush or under the lip where the edges overlap. The collar will open, close, and screw down with the allen screw slightly through, but it will not close flush, there will be a slight gap from where it doesn't tighten down quite right.

Oh, and I wish we'd ordered a little smaller on circumference, but that's not a flaw of the collar, it's as ordered, just we were unsure of exact sizing and didn't want to have to wait on an exchange.